Ed Batista shares perceptions about our relationship with ourselves. Common interpersonal relationship principles show up as three forms of self-sabotage:
- Self-Criticism: Viewing a problem as the result of our defective personality
- Self-Contempt: The belief that we’re inferior in some way to others
- Denial: A refusal to engage ourselves and take responsibility
Source: Ed Batista, December 27, 2016.
Psychologist John Gottman describes a set of behaviors he calls “the Four Horsemen,” named after a symbol of the apocalypse in the Book of Revelation. These four interpersonal dynamics have a predictable and powerful negative impact on a relationship and are often indicators of worse problems to come.
INSIGHTS: When you have a challenge or a problem, looking in the mirror is the first place to turn. Batista does a nice job of turning Gottman’s principles to our view of ourselves.